What I've Learned From My Long Distance Relationship

Relationships and PTSD

Unfortunately, PTSD is an extremely common condition in men and women serving in the military. These men and women can suffer for years after they've returned from war, and feel hopeless and helpless in their fight. However, it does not have to be that way.  Please visit this article published by the U.S Department of Veterans Affairs. It outlines different kinds of traumas the military member may have experienced, and how family and friends can help. Our veterans are heroes, and they deserve help and support upon returning home. While we may not understand fully the trauma they may have suffered, we can still do all that we can to make the transition back to civilian life as smooth as possible.

Let It Go

Just a little something to make you smile. (: Not everything about the military is all work and no play. Watch this group of marines sing along to the popular Let It Go, featured in Disney's Frozen. Stick it out til the end. I promise it's worth it.

Love in Wartime

Thus far, I have shared advice, articles, and ideas pertaining to modern military and long-distance relationships. But, I thought it would be fun to take a look at some love stories that took place in the past; WWII specifically. In one of the most tumultuous times in our world's history, these brave couples found love despite all odds. Take a look at these inspiring stories, and maybe they will give you hope in your own personal love story.

Love in Wartime

Gift Ideas

Don't know what to send your military love as a gift? Do they have a birthday coming up, or maybe an anniversary? It can be tough coming up with fun and creative ideas to send, and full on care packages aren't always feasible. Well, here are a list of links for websites and other blogs with ideas for unique and fun gifts! Everything from letters, to pictures, to homemade crafts! You are sure to find something special that your long distance partner will love and cherish.

• http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2014/04/07/diy-heart-map-art/
• http://jomygosh.com/2015/02/open-when-letter-topics-deployment-separation/
• http://vividgiftideas.com/2014/04/10/gift-ideas-for-military-men/
• http://thecozyoldfarmhouse.blogspot.de/2013/10/diy-sharpie-mug-does-it-really-work.html
• http://quirkyinspired.com/military-homecoming-ideas/
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The Hope Line

The Hope Line is typically thought of to be suicide/self-harm help line. But did you know that they are there to assist and give advice on any problem you may be having? Relationship issues, school, emotional baggage...everything. This particular article on the Hope Line website outlines the questions they frequently get regarding military relationships. Two counselors discuss the advice they have given over the years in regards to these questions. They focus on both sides; the soldier AND the significant other left at home. It is a fantastic article and gives wonderful advice that I really needed. You may find it helpful as well. Here is a link to the article.  And remember, The Hope Line is there for whatever you may need. If you need help or just someone to talk to, a Hope Coach is ready and available!

Love Comes In All Shapes and Sizes

So far, I have spoken about long distance/military relationships, and about how difficult and rewarding they can be. But, I have made sure to be careful of my terminology because I wanted to keep my posts as open and relevant to everyone as possible. However, in this post, I want to address the fact that love does in fact come in all shapes and sizes. It doesn't matter if you are white, black, straight, gay, military or not...when you fall in love with someone, you make it work. This is the story of a lesbian couple who is making their military relationship work, despite the controversy of Don't Ask Don't Tell. This is a fantastic example of a couple pushing against the odds to make their love work.